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[Ih8grvty]

fourtycal wrote: Ih8grvty wrote:
Besides, if you have a good relationship with your wife, no reason to shit on her and not tell her.
I tell mine everything, I dont keep secrets from her and she doesnt keep any from me.
a good relationship is started on trust, if you cant trust each other then what the hell is the point of being together?
You can think Im whipped if ya like, I prefer to think I have a good relationship with my wife.

You don't have to share every little detail to trust each other. I don't even know where my wife works (some grade school?) let alone what she does every minute or how much she makes and I don't need to know because I trust her. She don't know how much money I make or have in the bank and I don't know how much she has. I do know that we dont/cant argue about money (the number one cause of divorce!) and do not have to ask to borrow from the pot to buy each other gifts or go to dinner. We did it wrong for the first 5 years and almost didn't make it, then some sound advise from a friend and I fixed it. No money disputes for the last 14 years :cool2:

Maybe others can handle the stress of "shared" money but not me, doesn't mean I dont love her because I keep a money stash :ne_nau:

Different shit works for different people I guess.
I did it wrong with somone I HATE for 10 years, shit I didnt like her when I married her and it wasnt too much longer before I hated her.
This time through I do shit different, and it works for us.
I know where she works and what she does and how her day went because she tells me, I know she is going to Minnesota in july for work, because she told me, I know she got a promotion and a raise last month because she told me.
I like being able to share in her excitement and accomplishments. I like that she got through college, and that I was who helped her get started and told her she could do it at over 30 years old. I like that we share a life.

WHy marry someone you despise? that whats going to come from this post so lets get it over and out now.
I was 18, young and stupid, made 40k a year and had a good life. She was supposed to be a 1 night stand, and 3 weeks later I had pissed off parents, and she was pregnant and 16.
stupid? you bet your ass! I was dumb, I should of had a rubber, I should of paid for the kid and not married her, I should of done alot of shit. I didnt, I married her and tried to change her and make her a decent person. You cant change people, they are what they are. 8 years later I packed my shit and walked out, 2 years in court and finally a divorce! A very happy day in my life. it was granted 2 days after the anniversary.
The one good thing I got out of it was my kids.
Im smarter now, I do shit 100% different than I did that first time.
What works for me may not work for you, but it works great for us.
The one Im with now I met just after valentines day 5 years ago. She had a 6 month old son that KNOWS Im his dad. His real dad? I am his real dad, his sperm donor disappeared the day she told him she was pregnant, not a word from him since. He owes thousands of dollars in back child support and I figure that after we get married this summer I can use that as a bargaining chip to get him to sign off on his rights, if he even sees or responds the ad that will be in the paper seeking him so I can legally adopt . so I can adopt the kid.
I call her my wife, she is for all practical purposes. Been with her for over 4 1/2 years and lived together for 3 of those.
That kid IS my son,and will be 5 on the fourth of July and asks me stuff like "Why are all of these people at my parade?" He still thinks the fireworks are for him, He can read, do simple math, and splay the piano, well OK keyboard, and taught himself all of the musical stuff as i am a talentless bastard when it comes to music. 47" and 64 lbs.
I am the proud parent of MY kid.

[Ih8grvty]

Sombeech wrote: When I stink, sometimes I blame it on my little boy. Some secrets are best kept secret.

I do that in the car, but my son is key to it!
I let go of a silent but violent one, she bitches at me an I look innocent and offended and tell her it wasnt me. then turn to the back seat, "Kota, you fart?"
he proudly takes the blame every time! That or he blames his brother.

[deathcricket]

proads26 wrote: Yes we usually split the rest after bills and saving some too, and 300 bucks is alot when you're 23.

Ok now the "situation" has been resolved we can get on to more serious matters. WTF you doing married at 23? Shouldn't you be trying to bang anything with a pulse? Take a queue from Ih8gravity I think, too young to know what you want out of woman in life IMO.

[proads26]

I'm just doin what i'm doin at 23. I knew what I wanted in a woman when I was like 12, then it was just a process of whittling it down, Of course noboody is perfect, and you can't always have everything you want all the time,but she's fantastic, she's as much of what I want as I can get at one time in one person. Plus I love her so that helps too. :haha:

[Alex]

deathcricket wrote: proads26 wrote: Yes we usually split the rest after bills and saving some too, and 300 bucks is alot when you're 23.

Ok now the "situation" has been resolved we can get on to more serious matters. WTF you doing married at 23? Shouldn't you be trying to bang anything with a pulse? Take a queue from Ih8gravity I think, too young to know what you want out of woman in life IMO.

:roflol: deathcricket, that made me LOL here

[sparker1]

So, how did she spend the $45?

[Iceaxe]

sparker1 wrote: So, how did she spend the $45?

:roflol: :roflol: :roflol:

[proads26]

HA HA this guy must be married. We're going to vegas here in a couple weeks, and she used her black magic to convince me it was a good idea to put it toward that. I found out today that I'm getting about 200 more in insurance refunds because apparently I was paying a month in advance, so that trip could end up being almost free. So I guess that wouldn't be all bad. Of course we're taking the trusty 92 accord which can cover about 1000 hectares on a teaspoon of gas so it shouldn't be that bad

[Iceaxe]

proads26 wrote: she used her black magic to convince me it was a good idea

[davis_b_1]

proads26 wrote: We're going to vegas here in a couple weeks

Gamble it all :2thumbs: :2thumbs:

[proads26]

haha well played with the baseball sir

[Ih8grvty]

Iceaxe wrote: proads26 wrote: she used her black magic to convince me it was a good idea



Oh god, that baseball nearly killed me! my kid came running to see what dad was laughing at on the computer.