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proads26 · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 17

yeaha this guy is feelin me!! thanks for the support

Sombeech · Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 12672 Location: The Rubbish Bin

I think I like the Rockstar and Jerky idea better.

Ih8grvty · Joined: 08 Apr 2008 Posts: 241 Location: Tooele Utah

greyhair biker wrote: After years of not stashing the cash and then regretting it when it got spent of something completely NON BENEFICIAL to me, I have to agree with fourtycal on this one...make it dissapear until you need it. You wont regret it...and you can live with the guilt of not telling your wife every little detail :haha:

If its going to be stashed for later, pulled out like a miracle to save asses or get the car fixed or what ever, Im all for that, but if its going to be tossed out on crap, then Id tell my wife.

Gutpiler_Utahn · Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 300 Location: Bountiful, UT

To quote my fiance, this is "momma don't know money." Of course, she and I have an agreement. Her money, after bills, is hers to do with as she sees fit and my money is mine after bills. Don't matter what I do with it so long as it's legal. :naughty:

Alex · Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 2562 Location: SLC, UT

proads26 wrote: yeaha this guy is feelin me!! thanks for the support

I think this dude is either Beech/Ice or he is pulling our leg. :roll:

Dude, it's your family, your life, your wife and your money, go do what you want with it. Why ask for support from the outdoor forums? Honestly....

300 green ones ain't that much anyways. :blahblah:

Sombeech · Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 12672 Location: The Rubbish Bin

Alex wrote:
I think this dude is either Beech/Ice or he is pulling our leg. :roll:

I guess I've done this too many times. :lol8: But no, it's neither of us.

proads26 · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 17

Yes we usually split the rest after bills and saving some too, and 300 bucks is alot when you're 23.

Alex · Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 2562 Location: SLC, UT

proads26 wrote: t when you're 23.

Alright that explains it, then take an advice of fortycal and stash the cash for the rainy day.

proads26 · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 17

Why else son? its a slow day at work, plus other people's input, no matter what it is broadens your perspective

BruteForce · Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 2:16 pm Post subject:

A few marriage tips (going on 20 for my wife and I):

- Never lie/cheat/steal/ to/from your partner (integrity always)
- The wife is always right
- The wife is always better than "new cow"

Let her know about your check, but suggest how YOU'D like to spend it.

proads26 · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 17

Yeah maybe instead of mulling this over so much I should start writing my proposal ha ha

JP · Joined: 04 Jan 2007 Posts: 5894 Location: Not Sure

Take her out someplace nice and then tell her what you bought :haha:

Alex · Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 2562 Location: SLC, UT

It's always easier to ask for a permission than beg for forgiveness.

TreeHugger · Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 1069

If you were my husband I'd tell ya to go buy something fun - a bonus is a bonus after all - you earned it.

What your wife might say, who knows, only you know. Trust your instincts, if you think she'll be ticked off if you dont tell her or dont spend it on her, or dont share it with her, ask yourself, is it worth it?

I dont advocate hiding it or sneaking around with stuff, generally bad practice in a relationship/marriage. You're young, figure out your financial relationship with each other so things like this dont have to be an issue.

OR... you could always go get what you want: come home all excited about the BONUS that YOU earned, and be all happy and show her what you got and go on and on about how cool it is, and she'll naturally share in your excitement and be happy for YOU, right?? That's as it should be. :nod:

fourtycal · Joined: 13 May 2005 Posts: 977 Location: Midvale

Ih8grvty wrote:
Besides, if you have a good relationship with your wife, no reason to shit on her and not tell her.
I tell mine everything, I dont keep secrets from her and she doesnt keep any from me.
a good relationship is started on trust, if you cant trust each other then what the hell is the point of being together?
You can think Im whipped if ya like, I prefer to think I have a good relationship with my wife.

You don't have to share every little detail to trust each other. I don't even know where my wife works (some grade school?) let alone what she does every minute or how much she makes and I don't need to know because I trust her. She don't know how much money I make or have in the bank and I don't know how much she has. I do know that we dont/cant argue about money (the number one cause of divorce!) and do not have to ask to borrow from the pot to buy each other gifts or go to dinner. We did it wrong for the first 5 years and almost didn't make it, then some sound advise from a friend and I fixed it. No money disputes for the last 14 years :cool2:

Maybe others can handle the stress of "shared" money but not me, doesn't mean I dont love her because I keep a money stash :ne_nau: